Personal Growth is like a Brazilian……
And no, I’m not talking about the glorious, cocoa delicious beauties that dance around at Carnival in Rio de Janeiro.
I’m talking about the kind that involves having hot wax spread on your nether regions and ripped off violently along with the attached curly bits! Ouch!
Bloody painful… however absolutely necessary (in my case at least!).
Let me explain….
This week has been really confronting. I have started an online course to deal with some self-limiting behaviors and have found that working through the daily exercises has uncovered some pretty deep-seated beliefs about my self worth. And I’ll be honest with you, it’s been a total bitch!
It has forced me to really focus on where these beliefs came from and how they have shaped the way I respond to everyday events. I’ve had to begin to face the negative and self-sabotaging tendencies that consistently rear their ugly head whenever my life begins to go in the direction I would like it to go.
A big part of my wellness journey has been to recognise that much of what I go through each day to manage my health and spread the message of pursuing wellness with a passion has to do with my state of mental health and my perception of myself, as well as my perception of what others think of me.
Hashimotos has been linked to mental health and anxiety issues and I am certainly no stranger to battling with these things on a daily basis.
This last week has been Mental Health Week and today is World Mental Health Day and as such there has been a lot of information and television based around the reality that mental health disorders are a huge part of life for many of us and if we are not personally affected, we will definitely have a friend or family member who is or has been affected at some time. These mental health issues can be triggered by many things in a persons life and I do believe that gut health can play a big part, but more about that some other time.
Mental health is just as important as physical health and whilst there are some disorders that we have no control over, there is much that we can do to work towards having a healthier mental state. Part of that is about learning to take responsibility for our mental wellbeing and personal growth and development can help us to move towards a more positive place both mentally and physically.
I, like most people, am my biggest and harshest critic, and I think that one of the hardest things to do is to face the areas of your life and behavior that you really don’t like, and try to figure out how to get to the heart of the matter, deal with it and move forward.
That’s where the pain comes in.
Taking a really truthful look at what is going on in your life and emotions can be really shit! No, really! It sucks the big one. Starting to dig deeper uncovers so much crap and it’s really hard to not just put your hands over your ears and go “La la la la la, I’m not listening!” And then cover it all back up and pretend you never saw it. But then, what would be the point of that? I guess then you just decide whether you are happy to keep going at the level you are at, or you decide that where you want to get to is more important than the temporary discomfort of having to face and change some things.
Personally, I’m not prepared to stay where I am at right now, because I don’t like how I feel inside sometimes, and I know that by facing the hard stuff (which can sometimes go right back to really early on in life), I can begin to create the life I want to have and share my experience with others.
Why is it that most people never reach their full potential? Or they have dreams that they never move actively towards? Is it because they are not smart enough? Or lack some special credentials to get what they want?
I don’t think so. I think it’s a case of not wanting to face the pain of personal growth. Of running away from the demons that confront them, and not facing them head on and smashing through it.
Because it hurts… a lot.
And sometimes it’s just easier to sit on the couch and make excuses about how life has dealt them a crap hand and you wouldn’t possibly understand because it’s easy for you.
We don’t know what is really going on in anyones life or head, unless they choose to share it with us. So why do we assume that the ones who choose to face their stuff head on and push through it, must have some super powers or unearthly talents that we can’t possibly have access to? It’s really so much more about being prepared to push through the pain. Or that the pain of staying where you are, is actually becoming worse than the pain of facing the change required.
Imagine a mother giving birth. She gets to the pushing stage (which is frikking painful) and decides “Um, no! Sorry! Uh-uh! This hurts too much…I’m not going through with it baby, you’re just gonna have to stay in there forever!!”
Any mother will tell you that regardless of the pain, the end result is totally worth it. I don’t agree with the statement that you forget about the pain. I actually just think that the resulting blessing allows you to put the pain into perspective and you can see that it was necessary. The memory of the pain becomes less and less vivid and you begin to appreciate that it was just a part of the process to achieve the desired result.
So whatever it is that you want to change in your life, be it your health, your finances, your relationships or just your happiness factor, there is most likely going to be some kind of pain involved to get to where you want to be.
Will you go through the necessary pain to get the desired result?
Or will you just decide that you are happy to put up with the short and curlies??
If you or a loved one is struggling with mental health issues, please seek the appropriate professional help.